Avoiding the Typical Wedding Planning Arguments

The process of planning a wedding can be a lot of fun, but there will undoubtedly be some hiccups along the way.  These little arguments can become a much bigger problem, so avoid the tiffs and approach the hot topics with a cool head.

Wedding Guest List Always remember who is paying for the wedding.  While you have the final say over who is and who is not invited to your wedding event, you must remember that the person footing the bill is entitled to an opinion on the matter.  If there is a reason why you don’t want a particular person there, then be vocal about that up front, listing your reasons in a fair and logical manner.  Avoid the hurt feelings by offering to invite another of that person’s favorite people.

Budgeting Regardless of who is paying, it can become quickly clear that things cost more than anyone was really expecting.  When paying for 200+ guests, every small purchase can add up.  It is important to sit down and allot a certain amount for each big ticket item, so the budget is not taxed with the first few buys.  It can also be troubling when you parents are stuck paying for your groom’s very large family.  Consider this up front.  If his family is considerably larger than your own, ask him to provide solutions.  It might mean cutting down on the number of family members invited, or perhaps his parents would be willing to pitch in to help cover the large number of invitees.

His Level of Involvement Be honest before you start planning.  Many grooms are not going to put forth a lot of effort when it comes to planning their big days.  They are just as happy to pop the question and otherwise stay out of it until they are told where to stand at the ceremony.  If you really want him to take a part in the planning, let him know that before you begin, or assign him a specific duty that involves something that would excite him like the honeymoon, the music, or the bar arrangements.